Dating child alcoholics
If the worst thing that happens to them is an occasional cold shoulder or huff from their spouse, there isn’t a driving reason for them to stop drinking, come home on time, or get a job.
(see: If Your Dog (or Husband) Runs, Don’t Chase Him) You have every right to list your boundaries in regards to your relationship with your spouse: This isn’t controlling or manipulating; it is a clear communication of what you are and are not willing to do.
Sadly, what is common sense to a business is not always common sense to a marriage.
Single mothers are bona fide idiots and here is why you should never even consider dating one: First, this is a woman who clearly doesn’t give a shit about her child’s well-being and future prospects.
No marriage is perfect, but it is far easier to navigate life with someone on your side rather than with someone demanding one more thing from you.
Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.
One spouse plays the role of the parent: On paper these are marriages, but in practice they are parent-child relationships. (See: The Math of a Good Marriage) The first piece of advice in working with couples in these types of relationships is obvious—tell one spouse to stop being a child.
More times than I can count, I’ve looked a man in the eye and told him, “Your wife deserves a husband not a child.